My divorce came as a shock. I was completely unprepared financially and emotionally to handle all the challenges and unknowns. At first, I felt terrified and vulnerable, stuck in indecision and unable to move forward effectively. I knew no one who was divorced. I felt so alone. But, I needed an ally I could trust. My x provided me with the support I needed to make all of the important decisions. Unfortunately, I did not hire a divorce coach until I was well through a few years of the divorce maze. I wish I had known about divorce coaching and hired a coach from the beginning. Instead, I wasted valuable time and financial resources trying to piece together a team and a plan myself.
Divorce coaches are professionals who are trained to advise and partner with individuals and couples on the important decisions to be made when contemplating divorce, going through the process, or recovering from the fallout of one. A divorce coach helps people identify and reach goals related to their divorce. This includes guiding people through the various stages of the divorce process.
How do you know if you need a coach? Ask yourself, do any of these dilemmas ring true?
- You aren’t thinking clearly and finding it hard to make decisions
- You are paralyzed with fear about your future
- You are unfamiliar with the divorce legal process and would value someone to hold your hand through it
- You are very angry, and you find yourself trying to use your divorce as revenge
- You are struggling to understand your finances
- Your confidence is at an all-time low
If you see yourself in one or more of these scenarios, hiring a divorce coach could be the best investment for you. If you are interested in saving money, time, and emotional anguish, you should consider hiring a divorce coach first. Here are some distinctive benefits of working with a divorce coach who can support you throughout the divorce process.
Design And Navigate A Game Plan
When you are going through a divorce, it is easy to become overwhelmed and confused. A divorce coach can assist you in formulating and navigating the next steps. The divorce process seems very daunting, but there are really just a few important steps that are actually necessary to get a divorce. It’s getting lost in the details and decisions that can make the divorce process seem very daunting and confusing. A good divorce coach can help you go from point A to point B to point C throughout the process, all the while asking you the important questions to consider to make the best decisions for you, your family, and your future.
Help You Understand the Important Decisions
When you’re going through a divorce, you will need to make many important decisions that will have long-lasting effects on your future. There will be important ‘business’ decisions involving finances and decisions involving your family such as parenting plans. A good divorce coach can ask you the right questions to help you navigate these decisions from a place of empowerment rather than a place of scarcity. An experienced divorce coach can spend time with you on the many important decisions needed to navigate a time-sharing agreement that is best for your family and your future.
A divorce coach can help you make important decisions regarding what kind of lawyer you might use and help you devise questions to ask when interviewing an attorney so that you can find the right one for you.
A good divorce coach will be able to explain the different divorce options available to you such as mediation, collaboration, or litigation so that you can choose the path that might be best for your unique situation.
Navigate the Emotional Roller Coaster
Just as lawyers and financial experts have very important and specific roles in the divorce process, a divorce coach has the job of supporting and guiding you through the challenging maze of emotions. Your coach partners with you to listen and ask questions that will assist you in becoming aware of your thoughts and purposefully focus on and create the results you desire. Oftentimes, the coach stays on with the client even after the divorce papers are signed to assist with a smooth and successful transition into single life and co-parenting.
Create a Parenting Plan
Divorce can be hard on children. A well-thought-out parenting plan or timesharing agreement can help to set appropriate expectations and diminish the conflict.
You and your spouse will be sharing parenting responsibilities now in two different households. In an uncertain time, one thing is certain, things will be changing! A well-written parenting plan must hold up through many changes over the next several years until the children graduate from high school. A divorce coach who has experience with formulating parenting plans can help to guide you through the items that are worth fighting for and must be spelled out in the plan and those that are better left to shake out in the wash.
Divorce is one of the most stressful events you and your children can experience. High-conflict divorce can cause long-term emotional and physical damage to a child and is one of the most commonly occurring ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences). A divorce coach can help you navigate conflict by teaching you emotional regulation and coping skills. Conflict cannot exist without your participation. A good divorce coach can help you navigate and co-parent peacefully with a highly combative or narcissistic ex-partner.
Navigate Your Post-divorce Life
A divorce coach can help you navigate a smooth transition to a successful post-divorce life. Your coach will know you well by this point as she has been your advocate and thinking partner throughout this process. Your divorce coach can guide you as you reinvent yourself either personally or professionally. They can help you to create the best version of yourself!
When I am working with clients who are facing divorce, I am always looking for ways to better support them through the process with as minimal a financial impact as possible. In most cases, adding a divorce coach to your team of divorce professionals will actually save you money in the long run. Certainly, if you hire a divorce coach first, you can expect to receive the full benefits of establishing a game plan, navigating important decisions, calming the emotional roller coaster, creating a secure parenting plan, minimizing conflict, and navigating this major life transition.
Begin Divorce Coaching in Florida
Divorce can be painful, but you don’t have to face this alone. I can help you with this stressful moment in your life. I am also happy to assist clients with divorce mediation anywhere in the state of Florida along with online divorce coaching and life transition coaching. You can start your therapy journey with Successful Solution by following these steps:
- Contact me for a free consultation
- Get to know me and my coaching process
- Start your divorce coaching journey!